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Rishikesh Tirumalai's avatar

I love this distinction, and definitely see a younger incarnation of myself in it.

In my experience, if an operator moves with a healthy sense of personal dignity, they’ll naturally accept both their gains and their losses, which makes them trustworthy with impactful work and steering feedback

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Cat Stephenson's avatar

Love this , and perfect timing, I’ve just been trying to wrap my head around what’s so awkward about the way a new DR interacts with me and it’s exactly this. Thank you Wes, gold as always!

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Hubert Yee's avatar

Great examples Wes! I have seen and can relate to them.

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Faye Zheng's avatar

Spot on. Very prevalent behavior in East Asian cultures that place emphasis on being deferential to superiors (I understand this firsthand as a Chinese female who has had to unlearn these behaviors over time). For such individuals who might have grown up outside of the US, it can be a huge cultural shift to realize this kind of professional deference tends to solicit a “cringe” response from superiors, rather than seen as

expected

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Jenny Huang's avatar

Maybe because English is my second language— but is “Cya vibe” the same as neurotic?

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Catherine Nelson's avatar

Hi Jenny! Cover Your A** (CYA) is when you take a lot of steps/caution to ensure you don’t get blamed if something goes wrong. I think a “neurotic” behavior might seem a little more emotional or anxious and this CYA behavior is more of a strategy someone uses for self preservation.

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Jenny Huang's avatar

Got it. Thank you for clarifying! 🙏🏻

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