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Anton Zaides's avatar

Great post Wes.

I’m guilty of the ‘over confident’ tendency, and until a few years ago I didn’t even know it annoyed people.

Then one day we were waiting for a bus with a friend. 2 buses arrived, numbers 40 and 240. He said “let’s get number 40, that’s my usual one”, but I insisted: “240 will get us there faster”.

He listened to me. Turns out 240 was not even in the right direction...

I laughed about it, but he said seriously: “you know Anton, you do that A LOT. You are very sure about every thing. Most of the time you are right, but in the 10% you are wrong, it’s very annoying. If you had given me even a little clue you are not 100% sure, I would have insisted on my opinion”.

Since then I try hard to re-evaluate my confindence in things before I speak, and put in proper caveats.

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Simon Bromander's avatar

I found this post incredibly insightful, especially the list of nuance words. Throughout my career, I've often been advised to be direct and avoid "wishy-washy" language, but your perspective on using more nuanced expressions, particularly in feedback situations, really resonated with me.

The comparison between overly broad statements and more nuanced ones was eye-opening. I can see how phrases like "might want to consider" or "in my experience" can actually make feedback more effective by encouraging open dialogue rather than sounding prescriptive.

Your point about speaking accurately to reflect our level of certainty is something I'll definitely keep in mind going forward. It's a great reminder that effective communication isn't just about being concise, but also about being precise and thoughtful in our word choices.

Thanks for challenging the conventional wisdom and providing a fresh perspective on how we can communicate more effectively, especially in professional settings. This post has given me a lot to think about and apply in my own interactions.

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