Wes Kao's Newsletter

Wes Kao's Newsletter Holiday Gift Guide 2025

Gift ideas for the operators, leaders, and builders in your life (including yourself)

Dec 3 • 

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November 2025

[Fundamentals] Strategy, not self-expression

Aim for one goal: behavior change. Sweet, sweet behavior change. Everything else you might want to say? Keep it to yourself.

Nov 12 • 

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October 2025

How to get faster approval from your manager

Managing up 101: You can’t force your manager to approve your work. But you can embrace that it’s your responsibility to get better at securing their…

Oct 29 • 

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Observe, assert, and validate (OAV)

Don’t only ask, "How can I be helpful?" Try to develop a point of view and assert what to do.

Oct 15 • 

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Reverse impostor syndrome

Imposter syndrome is other people thinking you’re good, but you don’t believe it yourself. Reverse imposter syndrome is knowing you are good, but others…

Oct 1 • 

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September 2025

[Fundamentals] Start right before you get eaten by the bear

Fundamentals is a new series that highlights my core concepts in communication, leadership, and influence that I personally keep coming back to.

Sep 17 • 

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Why "'no' is a complete sentence" is dangerous advice

If your colleague asks you to do a reasonable request that’s part of your job, and you simply turn say “no”... You are the jerk.

Sep 3 • 

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August 2025

Stop trying to change your manager

Because you don’t have the leverage to turn your manager into a different person. Here's what to do instead.

Aug 20 • 

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How to be an empathetic manager (without becoming a therapist)

You don't need to absorb everyone’s frustrations. Here’s how to listen to grievances without having folks dump their frustrations onto you.

Aug 6 • 

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July 2025

To sound more sincere, do this

If you aren’t careful, you may come across as less sincere because your writing doesn’t translate your intent. Here’s how to make sure that doesn’t…

Jul 23 • 

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How to delegate while maintaining high standards

This is for managers who want to delegate AND maintain a high bar for quality of work. Here are the 5 tactics I learned over time that made delegating…

Jul 9 • 

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June 2025

How to fix limbo writing

When writing is obviously bad, you delete it. When writing is obviously good, you ship it. But what if it’s not terrible, but it’s not good either? I…

Jun 25 • 

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